My perception on Expectation!
Why Not Keep Expectations?
Everywhere we go, whether it’s writers, motivational speakers, or even the people around us – we often hear the statement: “Never keep expectations, so that you won’t be hurt in the future.”
But let’s pause for a moment. We are human beings, created to express emotions, happiness, gratitude, frustration, and everything in between. Hope and expectation are what keep us alive as humans. Without them, aren’t we nothing more than robots made of flesh and bone?
My perspective is completely opposite to this common advice. Whenever someone tells me not to keep expectations, my immediate question is: “Why not?”
Before I share my perception, I want to ask a simple question to all readers: Are you absolutely sure that you’ve stopped expecting, regardless of the context?
Take a moment to reflect. If you question yourself honestly, you’ll realize that when we say, “I have no expectations,” we are usually just trying to avoid things we don’t want to face.
Think about it,at every stage of life, we expect.
As children, we expect emotional and financial support from our parents. Can anyone truly deny this?
During our school years, we expect close friends, good grades, or the chance to pursue our interests.
When we step into our professional careers, we expect to earn a decent salary, grow in our organization, or increase revenue in our business. Have you ever heard anyone say, “I don’t expect good earnings or a higher position”?
Even in the smallest matters, we expect.We expect quality products from shops.We expect proper treatment from medical centers.We expect hygiene and delicious food from restaurants.
Why? Because whenever we invest, whether it’s money, effort, or time and we naturally expect value in return.
Now let’s talk about relationships. This is where people quickly say, “Don’t expect anything from anyone to avoid attachment.”
But isn’t this ironic? In relationships, we invest our most precious resource – our feelings. And when we are close to someone, it’s only natural for emotions to evolve into expectations.
Yet in today’s social media era, where 90% of people are busy living in a fake world, genuine connections are fading. Many aren’t even true to themselves, let alone others. If we can’t build a real bond with ourselves, or love ourselves honestly, how can we expect to build meaningful relationships with others?
That’s why this “don’t expect” statement feels more like an excuse. People hide behind it to avoid vulnerability. But in reality, day by day, we are becoming more robotic – emotionless humans who fear connection.
As for me, I am a human being full of feelings. I invest emotions in my loved ones, and yes, I keep expectations from them. I have been hurt many times, but that’s part of life. If I don’t understand the feeling of being hurt, how will I ever truly value the feeling of being loved?
Keeping expectations doesn’t mean controlling someone’s life or being obsessed. It simply means that when we give our love and emotions, we naturally hope our loved ones will stand by us in return.
So, the next time you hear someone say “Don’t keep expectations,” ask yourself –
Why not?
उम्मीद पर दुनिया कायम है..
Hope keeps the world alive..
✍🏻 Prabhamayee Parida
Quote -: An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality. -: Brian Tracy
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